I can have an entire conversation with someone before I’ve actually had it with them. I’ve predicted what they’ll say, planned my response, and sometimes replayed the whole thing afterward. So is rehearsing conversations actually an ADHD thing?
Sometimes texting someone back stops feeling like a conversation and starts feeling like another thing I have to do. Then “I’ll respond later” turns a 30-second reply into a four-day problem.
For years, I thought I just had an anger problem. Learning how ADHD can affect emotional regulation helped me understand why anger can hit so hard—and what I can do when it does.
When I finally got my adult ADHD diagnosis, I wanted help immediately. Medication helped, but I still needed therapy, the coping skills I’d already built, and time to process the years I’d spent blaming myself.
I thought I was lazy when I kept putting off dishes, texts, and even bathroom breaks. After my ADHD diagnosis, I started asking a different question: what was making it so hard to start?
Making a decision should end the decision. For me, sometimes it doesn’t. I can research every option, finally choose one, then go right back and start comparing again. Here’s what that experience looks like—and what ADHD research actually tells us about decision-making.
I remember the shame of getting something wrong as a kid. Sometimes my parents would ask me to do something and I’d mess it up. Other times, I was just trying to figure something out on my own. But if I did it wrong, I could still get judged for it. After a while, you … Read more
If I’m working on something and my fiancée asks me to do something, I usually want to help. The problem is that I’m already doing something. And I can’t always just stop. If I’m writing, working on the website, or doing something else that has my full attention, I usually need to get to what I’ve started … Read more
I can have one appointment at 3 PM and somehow that becomes the thing I’m doing today. Not literally. I might play a game. I might clean. I might do something around the house. But I’m also checking the clock. 10:30. 11:00. 11:30. Every 30 minutes or so, I’m making sure I still have plenty of … Read more
Memory has probably been one of the hardest parts of ADHD for me. I forget dates. I forget things I need to do. I can be in the middle of a sentence and suddenly forget what I was about to say. And that’s a weird one because I haven’t stopped talking. I’m still in the … Read more